People has done a feature on Michelle for their November 26th issue which is released this Friday!
Michelle and Barack Obama may seem like they have an ideal marriage and that’s exactly why she’s now opening up — in an exclusive at-home interview with PEOPLE — about the time the former first couple sought help from a marriage counselor.
“Because we’re role models, it’s important for us to be honest and say, if you’re in a marriage and there are times you want to leave, that’s normal — because I felt that way,” the former first lady, 54, says in the interview about her book, Becoming, out Nov. 13.
“My mother would talk about leaving my father in the spring, when she’d do spring cleaning,” Obama says, recounting one story in her hotly anticipated memoir. Did she herself ever consider leaving Barack? “There were definitely times when I wished things were different,” Obama tells PEOPLE, “but I don’t think I ever thought, ‘I’m just checking out of this.’ “
In Becoming, Mrs. Obama is candid about the difficulties she and the former president faced. Though their commitment to each other has remained steadfast since their marriage in Oct. 1992, their lives got more complicated as they struggled to get pregnant and after they had their two daughters Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17.
While promoting her book, Mrs. Obama revealed that she suffered a miscarriage and was only able to conceive the girls through in vitro fertilization (IVF). After their daughters were born, the couple had to balance her high-powered career with Barack Obama’s burgeoning career as a politician and the stress of being new parents, according to the Associated Press
Michelle Obama writes that they went to marriage counseling “a handful of times,” per the AP.
“Marriage counseling, for us, was one of those ways where we learned to talk out our differences,” she said during a recent interview on Good Morning America, according to The Hill.
Through marriage counseling, Mrs. Obama explained, she learned to take control of her own happiness.
“What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me and I started working out more, I started asking for help, not just from him but from other people,” she said on GMA.
She added, “I stopped feeling guilty.”
“I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them,” Mrs. Obama said during the GMA interview. “And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”
For the full PEOPLE interview with Michelle Obama, including intimate details of her new laid-back life with Barack, pick up the new issue on newsstands Friday.
Elle features Michelle on the cover of their December issue and she is interviewed by her good friend Oprah Winfrey, here is part of their interview!
The former First Lady discusses her life now, couples counseling, and President Trump.
Upon the release of her highly-anticipated memoir, Becoming, the former First Lady gets candid with Oprah Winfrey about her struggles with Barack, the threats to her children’s lives, and her vow to be a force for good.
Oprah Winfrey: First, let me just say: Nothing makes me happier than sitting down with a good read. The book is tender, it is compelling, it is powerful, it is raw. There are so many revelations in this book. Was writing about your private life scary?
Michelle Obama: Actually, no, because here’s the thing that I realized: People always ask me, “Why is it that you’re so authentic?” “How is it that people connect to you?” And I think it starts because I like me. I like my story and all the bumps and bruises. That’s what makes me uniquely me. So I’ve always been open with my staff, with young people, with my friends. And the other thing, Oprah: I know that whether we like it or not, Barack and I are role models.
I hate when people who are in the public eye—and even seek the public eye—want to step back and say, “Well, I’m not a role model. I don’t want that responsibility.” Too late. You are. Young people are looking at you. And I don’t want young people to look at me here and now and think, Well, she never had it rough. She never had challenges, she never had fears.
We’re not going to think that after reading this book. Millions of people have been wondering how you’re doing, how’s the transition, and I think there’s no better example than the toast story. Can you share the toast story?
Well, I start the preface right at one of the first weeks after we moved into our new home after the transition—our new home in Washington. It’s the first regular house, with a door and a doorbell, that I have had in about eight years. The toast story is about one of the first nights I was alone there—the kids were out, Malia was on her gap year, I think Barack was traveling. As First Lady, you’re not alone much. There are people in the house always, there are men standing guard. There is a house full of SWAT people, and you can’t open your windows or walk outside without causing a fuss.
You can’t open a window?
Can’t open a window. Sasha actually tried one day—Sasha and Malia both. But then we got the call: “Shut the window.”
So here I am in my new home, just me and Bo and Sunny, and I do a simple thing. I go downstairs and open the cabinet in my own kitchen—which you don’t do in the White House because there’s always somebody there going, “Let me get that. What do you want? What do you need?”—and I made myself toast. Cheese toast. Then I took my toast and I walked out into my backyard. I sat on the stoop, and there were dogs barking in the distance, and I realized Bo and Sunny had really never heard neighbor dogs. They’re like, What’s that? And I’m like, “Yep, we’re in the real world now, fellas.” It’s that quiet moment of me settling into this new life. Having time to think about what had just happened over the last eight years. Because what I came to realize is that there was absolutely no time to reflect in the White House. We moved at such a breakneck pace from the moment we walked in those doors until the moment we left. It was day in and day out because we, Barack and I, really felt like we had an obligation to get a lot done. We were busy. I would forget on Tuesday what had happened on Monday. I forgot whole countries I visited, literally whole countries. I had a debate with my chief of staff saying, “You know, I’d love to visit Prague one day.” And Melissa was like, “You were there.” I was like, “No, I wasn’t. Wasn’t in Prague, never been to Prague.” She had to show me a picture of me in Prague for the memory to jog. So the toast was the moment that I had time to start thinking about those eight years and my journey of becoming.
In reading the book, I can see how every single thing you’ve done in your life has prepared you for the moments ahead. I do believe this.
That’s if you think about it that way. If you view yourself as a serious person in the world, every decision that you make really does build to who you are going to become.
Yes, and I can see that from you in the first grade. You were an achiever with an A+++ attitude.
My mother said I was a little extra.Read More
Here is a preview of a new 20/20 that aired last night between Michelle and ABC’s Robin Roberts.
From Michelle Obama’s humble Chicago upbringing to the White House; Michelle Obama opens up about miscarriage, IVF and marriage counseling
Oprah has a big announcement for book lovers: a new Oprah’s Book Club selection! The latest pick is Becoming, by Michelle Obama. “She just opens up herself; it’s so vulnerable,” Oprah says of the former first lady’s memoir. “It is Michelle Obama’s personal story, of course, but I believe it’s going to spark within you the desire to think about your own becoming.” Watch the video to find out why Becoming is being called the book of the season. Order your copy today.
I am excited to share this small tribute to an amazing woman and one of my role models, Michelle Obama. Michelle is the former first lady of the United States of America. During her time in office she focused on spreading awareness related to education, physical fitness and nutrition, and making the White House more accessible. Recently she has lent her voice to encourage everyone to go out and vote in our elections so that each individual voice can be heard.
This site is my small way of recognizing this amazing woman and help spread a little of the light she shares with the world. I have set up a twitter account twitter.com/MichelleOOnline to help you stay up to date on the site and the activities of Mrs. Obama.
A giant thank you to my friend Claudia at Never Enough Design for our beautiful theme!